so sea and earth then

You wouldn’t believe how the grass had grown in your absence. Or maybe you would. Natural enough, after all.

Long time no speak, but then I guess that’s natural enough too. This was the third time I’d been up to your place this year. An all time record I think. Strange how departure presents an epic to-do list. You’d think absence would be a simple state: just not there. I didn’t mind though, so don’t worry.

When we there at Easter I took your pictures from the bathroom wall, the ones you had cut out from old birthday and Mother’s Day cards and glued to the wall. I always looked at that house on the cliff as I was peeing. Wanted to buy it for you. Saw a couple of pictures I had missed, when I was up there at Easter. Now there’s a Happy Mothers Day message in my mirrored writing, imprinted above the toilet.

The Easter visit went well. Stayed at a converted church in the village, ’cos it had enough space for people to chill out, and invited your friends round for a chat and some sandwiches on the Wednesday. Good vibe, I thought. People said I look like you, and people said they miss you. I do too. We were lucky with the weather, as we often have been. On the Tuesday I collected you in granular form from Wick, in a maroon plastic jar. Thursday was distribution day. I took the jar down to Achastle shore, where you used to take your dog, and threw some of you into the sea. If you catch the breeze in the right way, the handful of granular bone just floats off as a cloud, over the water. Almost as if it was your soul, if you believed in that. The sea was very still. Later all four of us were back in your garden. A small bonfire, some more launching of you over grass, trees, bushes and earth. We had the fireworks you requested. It was good to see a light in that living room window again, albeit fleetingly.

You going up there meant that there was never enough time to talk about stuff. But maybe you going up there created the stuff to talk about. It’s another world there and it was always surreal coming back. More so recently. A lot of context will now be missing, but I guess I can provide that. Mice had visited in the interim between your cremation and the Easter visit. I’m sure you’ve mentioned them before. I won’t know now.

It’s nice having recall. You can always go back to more or less any time, if you want to. I know you were tired, so it’s fine that you wanted to sleep. The garden is a metaphorical representation of the mental space you were looking for.

So then I was back up again last week. This time on my own. The journey up was uneventful. Usual stopping places. I missed texting you about where I’d got to, and you texting back about the food you were preparing. The drive down the lane as your caravan comes into view, with the sea behind it, was as it always was, but you didn’t come out to greet me. That was actually the first time I’d driven up entirely on my own.

Couldn’t decide whether you’d be upset or pleased about the grass having grown two feet tall. Your neighbours came round and cut it back for me the next day. I very much appreciated that.

Shoes and clothes on the first day. I’d only ever been in your bedroom a few times. Didn’t realise you had so many shoes. Some you had not had the opportunity to wear, still in cellophane. It was hard working through the clothes you had kept for formal occasions. Drawers and cupboards. You had a mortal fear of someone having to deal with those after you had gone. But they were OK, really. Took a while, but they were OK. On your birthday it rained for a time and I got to hear it on the roof of the dwelling where you spent your final moments, pattering also on the bin bags outside, waiting to be taken to the tip. Yes I know I could have sifted and recycled a bit more, but I didn’t have time and it hurt such a lot. I hope you were watching something good on TV in the moment your heart gave out, and I’m sorry you didn’t get to finish your evening meal. Little did we know over the years when we took all those cans and bottles to the local recycling point that your entire wardrobe of clothes and shoes would one day end up in those two metal skips. Last of your collected just-in-case stuff at landfill now too. All rationalised. Beautiful sound of rain on the roof. Always loved that, with the sea view.

The honeysuckle continues to do well. Perhaps too well. On your birthday the sea at Achastle was very still again. Odd that. I’m seeing your friend Leonard Cohen at the end of the month. Forgot to tell you about Coheed in the Autumn last year. I washed up. Was never too good with that. Used the chopping board that you told me was a piece salvaged from the interior of the Queen Mary. I found some whisky in the cupboard. Had one on your birthday, but left the rest there, in the manner of Loudon Wainwright. I managed to distribute some of your jam, marmalade and chutney. The rest remains in the cupboard below the microwave.

It has been very useful to imagine your voice as I dealt with each drawer. Thank you for knowing me so well. Thank you for being a mum, and a grandmother. I will never be able to repay. Although you were a bit uncomfortable with me saying it, because you thought love was more about what you did, I do, in fact, love you. I took down the net curtains. Never liked them. If people want to look, let them.

so doctor who then

Returned last night for a new series, following a three month gap after the Christmas special. UK newspaper reviews have not been favourable, and I read some comments on Facebook last night that expressed disinterest and boredom. The accusations are along the lines of last night’s episode not being scary enough and having a narrative that is too simple, rehashing ideas from previous episodes and other series.

When Doctor Who woke from a sixteen year hibernation in 2005 it drew acclaim. No more sets that wobbled visibly. Advances in more affordable effects, and a couple of high profile people in the lead roles, gave it some style, potentially widening its audience beyond eight year olds hiding behind the sofa from the stare of Daleks. Now it was cool for everyone to be into Doctor Who, and if you wanted something properly edgy and more explicitly adult, Torchwood came along the following year.

The Bells of Saint John grabbed and held my interest for a number of reasons. One would just be change I suppose. The Amy/Rory thing had become very tired. Time to move on. The episode was simple and very linear, for sure. But complexity and scale are not always very elegant. To remind yourself of what a narrative train wreck looks like, go back and have a look at the Torchwood mini-series Children Of Earth.

My loyalty to Doctor Who is not based on how scary it is; never was. I have some interest in the fantasy genre, but not much at all in the horror genre: somehow horror seems to revel in human dysfunction without saying very much about it. The idea of an alien intelligence with different needs to ours always appeals, as do storylines based on technology. Last night’s episode had both of these elements. It tapped very subtly I thought into prevalent fears about how our interactions with the internet are used by faceless multi-national organisations, commercial and governmental, highlighted recently by Google admitting that they had ‘accidentally’ gathered data on people’s internet habits from open wi-fi routers. In the end I think any boredom experienced while watching Doctor Who is down to the fact that straight sci-fi is just not considered generally very cool. He’s an alien who travels the universe in a spaceship. He has alien technology. Aliens might exist. The cheeky astronomer Brian Cox certainly seems to think that they probably do. Cool.

so summer then

Tomorrow is Easter Day and the start of British Summer time. The temperatures are lifting incrementally although frosts persist at night. It’s good to wake on the first Saturday of the Easter break with the sun patiently etching away the lying snow, one crystal at a time. Other joys of Saturday mornings include the facility to watch BBC Breakfast in HD without the disturbing red screen that politely informs you of  the unavailability of local news programming in HD. Local news seems to take a break on Saturday and Sunday. Sadly the BBC1 HD slot on a Sunday morning is usually occupied by football.

Yesterday I decided to experiment with having dual displays on the PC upstairs. This was inspired by seeing a promo for a documentary fronted by Terry Pratchett called Facing Extinction, a title that has dual significance: updating us on the fate of orangutans since he last campaigned to save them, and reflecting on his own extinction in the face of developing Alzheimer’s disease. He moves downstairs in a noticeably laboured way. I had not realised that the disease had such physical effects. Anyway, I happened to notice that in his study he has a veritable bank of monitors on his desk, almost as if he thought ‘I may be dead before long. Fuck it. I’m going to have a bank of monitors.’ So I brought a redundant monitor out of retirement and attached it to the spare VGA output on the graphics card. Up to press it’s just unused blank desktop space, but I have enjoyed dragging things onto it and back again, imagining that somehow by magic the window or icon that I’m dragging leaps through the air and lands on the other screen. Potential.

Probably off to buy a pair of jeans now. I hope to outlive them, although I guess I’m nearing an age bracket where outliving your clothes becomes increasingly less likely. Hey ho.